How Much Should I Spend on a Birthday Gift for Boyfriend?

According to a recent report on the website Psychology Today, people feel more loved on their birthdays.

Of course, you want to help your boyfriend celebrate his special day, but how much should you spend on his present? After all, it only comes once every 365 days.

😀 The Joy of Giving Gifts

The tradition of gift giving dates back thousands of years – possibly to the beginning of mankind. An article in Curious History states that cavemen bestowed gifts to one another – presenting unusual rocks or an animal tooth from one clan to another.

Giving gifts not only makes the recipient feel good, it pleases the gift giver too. Ness Labs, a mindful science-based website, conducted research about the psychology behind gift giving and discovered that reasons people are programed to enjoy giving include:

  • Social bonding: The shared act of giving/receiving connects two humans in a vested manner which advances health, wealth, and happiness in both parties.
  • Satisfaction: People do what works for them. If giving makes you feel good, chances are, you’ll keep giving. Psychology Today published an article on the neuroscience of gift giving stating that endorphins and dopamine (they body’s ‘feel good’ chemicals) are released when the exchange of a gift is made.
  • Cultural beliefs: Romans believed giving gifts brought good luck while Christians reference the bible verse stating it is better to give than to receive. Most cultures have a belief about giving gifts that keeps the tradition alive.

💭 How Much Should I Spend On The Gift?

Times are tough. Not only is it common to struggle with what gift to get a boyfriend, it is also common to struggle to afford one too.

According to Insider, of 1,050 people polled, the average spent on a significant other’s gift was $100, but only $50 if they hadn’t been dating that long. With the cost of living steadily rising, even $50 can pack a punch.

"The average spent on a significant other’s gift was $100, but only $50 if they hadn’t been dating that long..."

The amount you spend should be reasonable and relative to your relationship. Here are some tips to help you determine what you should spend given your circumstances:

📅 Length of time together

Typically, the longer you have been together as a couple, the more you may want to spend. If the two of you just started dating and you gift him a nice pocket watch and the relationship ends shortly thereafter, you’ll not be very happy.

💑 How serious are you as a couple?

You may have only been dating 6 months but if marriage is in the near future, you have raised the bar and may should spend as if you have been together longer since your relationship is on a higher level.

🍿 Are you doing anything else for his birthday?

Are you also springing for a movie or preparing a dinner for him? If so, you can get by with spending a little less on his gift.

💵 Your income

It simply doesn’t make any sense to get kicked out of your apartment because you spent all your rent on your boyfriend’s present. Then again, if you have a large budget, you don’t want to skimp on his gift.

💰 How much does he spend?

If you have a boyfriend who loves to shower you with expensive gifts, you may want to dig a little deeper when gifting him. If he’s a cheapskate, you may want to spend less.

🤔 Gut instinct

How much are you comfortable spending? All things considered, that is what really matters.

💕 Best Boyfriend Gifts

Reader’s Digest laid out a long list of 50 best gifts for a boyfriend ranging from super inexpensive to presents on the higher end – like a watch. Items include such things as:

  • Variety pack of gourmet hot sauces
  • Face wash (uhhhhh…better think that one through)
  • Custom photo puzzle
  • Games
  • Back massager
  • Luggage
  • Coffee club subscription
  • Much, much more

Buying your boyfriend a gift doesn’t have to be a stressful situation. Giving should be from the heart and if you manage that, you’ve aced the challenge.

Cheryl Jerabek
Cheryl Jerabek
Cheryl is a professional writer that has been writing ever since she could hold a crayon. She has authored over 200 fiction and non-fiction books for teens and adults (both credited and ghost-written) on a wide range of subjects. Cheryl also writes blogs and articles on various topics and themes. Residing in a small mountain community in Southwest Colorado, Cheryl draws her inspiration from the gorgeous scenery, her 2 adult children, and 3 grandchildren. She enjoys traveling, party and event planning, and hanging out with family and friends. “I write so you don’t have to,” is Cheryl’s motto.

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